An Offended Brother

An offended brother 
     is more unyielding than a fortified city, 
        and disputes are like the barred gates of a citadel.
           (Proverbs 18:19)

When we argue and disagree, 
     some of us close ourselves off from our friends.
We want to protect ourselves, 
     so we build relational walls.
Our pride is hurt, and we are unwilling 
     to do the counter-intuitive thing --
          to reach through our hurt 
               and draw the other person close again.

But the bigger person will act in love
     even if the feelings are not there.
The person of good character will actively seek restoration.
The godly person will pray and act 
     on the principle of grace -- extending undeserved favor.

Father, cleanse my heart today. 
Fill me with Your Spirit once again.
Help me to follow You in grace and forgiveness
     actively seek to restore a friendship. Amen.